I overate yesterday. And today I beat myself up for it.
When I coached myself this morning, I remembered to be kind to myself. Approach it with curiosity and compassion – I just wanted to understand where the shame was coming from.
So I asked myself how did eating make me feel?
And then it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I was tying my self-worth AS A PERSON to what I ate. I was telling myself that because I ate badly I wasn’t worthy as a person. I was unlovable. I was horrible. I was disgusting. And truth be told, I’ve been doing this my WHOLE LIFE. Many of us tie our self-worth to something external – weight, our appearance, our performance at work, grades at school, etc. It’s such a sneaky thing we do, that most of us have no clue we’re doing it.
When in reality – one has absolutely NOTHING to do with the other. What does what I eat have ANYTHING to do with my worthiness as a person? NOTHING.
They are completely and utterly unrelated. I teach this to my clients and yet I was blind to it myself.
🙌🏻 Can you relate? It can be with food. Or with your performance at work. Or grades at school. Or wearing makeup. Or with your weight.
🙌🏻The first step is awareness. Becoming aware of when you put your worthiness in the same sentence (or thought) with something external. Just notice it. That’s it.
🙌🏻 Let’s do this together! Let’s just notice. I’m going to pay attention the next time I put food in the same sentence or thought with my own self-worth or lovability. Try it with me! Let’s see where we get.
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