I teach my clients to be kind to themselves.
I show them how to be aware of their thoughts, and to do so as a “compassionate observer”.
But what does that really mean?
If you’ve ever…
🔹Felt guilty for feeling a feeling
🔹Shamed yourself for just a thought
🔹Held yourself to a much higher standard than that of a friend
🔹Beat yourself up for not being “as good” as someone else
That, my friend, is NOT being kind to yourself.
I know, because I’ve done all of those things hundreds of times.
The following things really helped me. Give them a try, and see what happens!
✅ Know that a feeling is just a vibration in your body. Allow yourself to feel, without the judgment that comes after it.
✅ Know that a thought is a made-up sentence created by your brain. Try to observe your thoughts with only curiosity and compassion.
✅ Next time you pass judgment on yourself, think – would I treat my best friend this way? If the answer is no, ease up on yourself and treat yourself the way you’d treat said best friend.
✅ ONLY compare yourself to yourself. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small. Try it- see what happens. You may find it easier than you think.
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